Sunday, May 30, 2010

Southern Weddings - Etiquette with Emily: A Holiday Weekend Wedding


Hi, y'all!  With Memorial Day right around the corner, I have a timely etiquette question to discuss.  What of the holiday weekend wedding?  Is it rude to schedule your wedding for, say, the July 4th weekend?  There are essentially two camps.
The first says that individuals and families often have their own long-standing traditions based around long weekends, and that scheduling a wedding during said weekend forces them to abandon your wedding or abandon their tradition.  Plus, flights and hotels are often more expensive over a holiday, and besides, some people just like to relax when they have a rare Monday off.
The second maintains that just as the bride and groom have the choice of when to schedule their wedding, their guests have the choice of whether or not to attend.  Many host families think an extended weekend essentially makes the travel worth more for their guests, as there is more time for both scheduled events and casual get togethers, all without taking more time off work.
I have to say, I'm firmly in the second camp.  I've always thought (shhhhhh, don't tell!) Labor Day Weekend would be my first choice for my wedding -- the weather is usually perfect in Connecticut at that point, and the three-day span would allow plenty of time for auxiliary events. 
But what about you?  Has anyone planned or is anyone planning a holiday weekend wedding?  How has it gone over with your guests?  Do you think scheduling a holiday wedding is rude?
Let me know what you think, and, as always, send me your etiquette queries for a future edition!

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